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Hazelden Thought for the Day  
2 hours ago

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January 28th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Staying in the Present Moment


Often, one of our biggest questions is "What's going to happen?" We may ask this about our relationships, our career, our recovery, and our life. It is easy to tangle us up in worrisome thoughts.

Worrying about what's going to happen blocks us from functioning effectively today. It keeps us from doing our best now. It blocks us from learning and mastering today's lessons. Staying in the now, doing our best, and participating fully today are all we need to do to assure ourselves that what's going to happen tomorrow will be for the best.

Worrying about what's going to happen is a negative contribution to our future. Living in the here and now is ultimately the best thing we can do, not only for today, but also for tomorrow. It helps our relationships, our career, our recovery, and our life.

Things will work out, if we let them. If we must focus on the future other than to plan, all we need to do is affirm that it will be good.

I pray for faith that my future will be good if I live today well, and in peace. I will remember that staying in the present is the best thing I can do for my future. I will focus on what's happening now instead of what's going to happen tomorrow.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 


Reflection for the Day  
3 hours ago

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January 28 Reflection for the Day

Now that I am in Gamblers Anonymous, I am no longer enslaved by the compulsion to place the next bet. Free, free at last from fabricating the elaborate alibis – and hoping they wont unravel. Free from the guilt and shame. Free from the worry about bookies and loan companies. Free from the ever-burgeoning mountain of debt.

Do I treasure my freedom from compulsive gambling?

Today I Pray
Praise God that I am free from the urge to gamble. This is my first freedom, from which other freedoms will develop – freedom to appraise my behavior sanely and constructively, freedom to maintain relationships with others on a sound basis. I will never cease to thank my Higher Power for leading me away from my enslavement.

Today I Will Remember
Praise God for my freedom.


Donna Email
15 hours ago

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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1/28/20  Tuesday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, a stressful day at work, but went home and chilled.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
Yesterday at 02:45pm

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January 27th Hazelden Thougth for the Day 

Surviving meant being born over and over.

—Erica Jong

We have decided to live. And each day we make the decision anew. Each time we call a friend, work a Step, or go to a meeting, we are renewing our contract with life. We are being reborn. Before coming to this program we died, emotionally and spiritually, many times. Some of us nearly died physically. But here we are, starting a new day, looking for guidance from one another. We are the survivors. And survival is there for the taking.

We will have days when we struggle with our decision to live. We will want to throw in the towel. We will want to give in or give up. But we've learned from one another about choices. And the choice to survive, knowing we never have to do it alone, gets easier with time.

I am one of the survivors. Today is my day for celebration.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey © 1982, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation.


Donna Email
Yesterday at 05:44am

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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1/27/20  Monday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler, a quiet weekend still gamble Free, just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAT.


Reflection for the Day  
01/26

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January 27 Reflection for the Day

I can attain real dignity, importance, and individuality only by a dependence on a Power that is great and good, beyond anything I can imagine or understand. I will try my utmost to call on this Power in making all my decisions. Even though my human mind cannot forecast what the outcome will be, I will try to be confident that whatever comes will be for my ultimate good.

Just for today, will I try to live this day only, and not tackle all my life problems at once?

Today I Pray
May I make no decisions, engineer no change in the course of my lifestream, without calling upon my Higher Power. May I have faith that God’s plan for me is better than any scheme I could devise for myself.

Today I Will Remember
God is the architect, I am the builder.


Reflection for the Day  
01/26

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JANUARY 26 Reflection for the Day

Personal freedom is mine for the taking. No matter how close the ties of love and concern that bind me to my family and friends, I must always remember that I am an individual, free to be myself and live my own life in serenity and joy. The key word in this realization is personal. For I can free myself from many involvements that seem necessary. Through the Gamblers Anonymous Program, I am learning to develop my own personality.

Am I reinforcing my personal freedom by leaving others free to control their actions and destinies?

Today I Pray
May I find personal freedom, by reevaluating associations, establishing new priorities, gaining respect for my own personhood. May I give others equal room to find their own kinds of personal freedoms.

Today I Will Remember
Take the liberty; it’s yours.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
01/26

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January 26th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Within every man there is the reflection of a woman, and within every woman there is the reflection of a man. Within every man and woman there is also the reflection of an old man and an old woman, a little boy and a little girl.

  — Hyemeyohsts Storm

This Cheyenne teaching reminds us of our connections - inside ourselves and with other people. Reading this passage, we are seeing it partly with the eyes of that small child who first learned to read. And perhaps, looking in the mirror today, we can see the traces of the old men we are becoming. We have been close to our mothers or sisters or lovers and have found parts of ourselves in them. By gently welcoming the children we once were, the old men we will be, the part of us that has a woman's outlook, we become wiser, stronger, and more spiritual.

We don't need to be frightened or disrespectful of the parts of ourselves that don't feel 100 percent virile. We can have virility and many other sides too. Such awareness creates peace with ourselves.

I will notice the reflection of small children in old faces, old people in children's faces, and men and women in each other.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 


Donna Email
01/26

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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1/26/20  Sunday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, nice productive Saturday, and went to dinner with a friend named Rose, normal stuff, just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
01/25

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January 25th Hazelden Thought for the Day  

Muddy water, let stand, becomes clear. 

  —Lao-tzu

A group of friends went swimming one day and one of them lost a ring in the bottom of the lake. Everyone started diving from different directions to find it until there was so much mud and sand stirred up that no one could see anything. Finally, they decided to clear the water. They waited silently on the edge of the shore for the mud from all their activity to settle. When it finally cleared, one person dove in slowly and picked up the ring. When we are confused about something in our lives, we will often hear answers and advice from all directions. Our friends will tell us one thing and our families another, until we feel pretty well mixed up. If we look away from our problem and let patience and time do their work, the mud inside us will settle and clear. Our answer will become visible, like the glimmer of silver in the water.

Am I overlooking the simple solution?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 


Donna Email
01/25

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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1/25/20  Saturday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  It's been a very stressful work week, and next week it will be closeout at work.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
01/24

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JANUARY 25 Reflection for the Day

Even with a growing understanding of the Gamblers Anonymous Program and its Twelve Steps, we sometimes may find it difficult to believe that our new way of life leads to personal freedom. Suppose, for example, I feel imprisoned in an uncomfortable job or troublesome personal relationship. What am I doing about it? In the past, my reflex reaction was to try to manipulate the things and people around me into being more acceptable to me. Today, I realize that happiness can’t be won that way.

Am I learning that freedom from despair and frustration can come only from changing in myself the attitudes that are perpetuating the conditions that cause me grief?

Today I Pray
May I be given clear eyes to see – and then to stop myself – when I am manipulating the lives of those around me, my daily associates, friends, family. May I always be aware that change must begin within myself.

Today I Will Remember
Change from the inside out.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
01/24

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January 24th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

I look in the mirror through the eyes of the child that was me.

—Judy Collins

The child within each of us is fragile, but very much alive, and she interprets our experiences before we are even conscious of them. It is our child who may fear new places, unfamiliar people, strange situations. Our child needs nurturing, the kind she may not have received in the past. We can take her hand, coax her along, let her know she won't be abandoned. No new place, unfamiliar person, or strange situation need overwhelm her.

It's quite amazing the strength that comes to us when we nurture ourselves, when we acknowledge the scared child within and hold her, making her secure. We face nothing alone. Together, we can face anything.

I will take care of my child today and won't abandon her to face, alone, any of the experiences the day may bring.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey © 1982, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation


Donna Email
01/24

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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1/24/20  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, I was mentally exhausted from work yesterday so I chose not to work night shift, it's not mandatory, Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
01/23

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JANUARY 24 Reflection for the Day

Among the many gifts that we are offered in the Gamblers Anonymous Program is the gift of freedom. Paradoxically, however, the gift of freedom is not without a price tag; freedom can be achieved only by paying the price called acceptance. Similarly, if we can surrender to God’s guidance, it will cost us our self-will, that “commodity” so precious to those of us who have always thought we could and should run the show.

Is my freedom today worth the price tag of acceptance?

Today I Pray
May God teach me acceptance – the ability to accept the things I cannot change. God also grant me courage to change those things I can. God help me to accept the illness of my addiction and give me the courage to change my addictive behavior.

Today I Will Remember
Accept the addiction. Change the behavior.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
01/23

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January 23rd Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Spontaneity is the quality of being able to do something just because you feel like it at the moment, of trusting your instincts, of taking yourself by surprise and snatching from the clutches of your well-organized routine a bit of unscheduled pleasure.

  —Richard Lannelli

The idea of turning our lives and our will over to the care of God is a very revolutionary thing to do. We are being told, "Let go of your excessive carefulness. Let the spirit guide you." When we are in touch with ourselves, with the people around us, with God, we are free to experiment. We don't learn from doing the same things correctly again and again. We learn from trying new things and making mistakes.

Over control is spiritually deadening. This is a program of life. Our renewal is a miraculous event. Why stop now? We can be in touch with the messages around us without trying to control the outcome. When we let God do the worrying, we find many possibilities open up,

As this adventure of life unfolds, I will not shy away from it.

 

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved


Donna Email
01/23

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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1/23/20  Thursday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery.  Checking in, dinner at my Christian Mom's house after work, then home, what a nice evening.   Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
01/22

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JANUARY 23 Reflection for the Day

We must never be blinded by the futile philosophy that we are just the hapless victims of our inheritance, of our life experience, and of our surroundings – that these are the sole forces that make our decisions for us. This is not the road to freedom. We have to believe that we can really choose. As addictive persons, we lost our ability to choose whether we would pursue our illness. Yet we finally did make choices that brought about our recovery.

Do I believe that in “becoming willing” I have made the best of all choices?

Today I Pray
May I shed the idea that I am the world’s victim, an unfortunate creature caught in a web of circumstances inferring that others ought to “make it up to me” because I have been given a bad deal on this earth. We are always given choices. May God help me to chose wisely.

Today I Will Remember
God is not a puppeteer.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
01/22

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January 22nd Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Animals are such agreeable friends they ask no questions, they pass no criticisms. 

  —GEORGE ELIOT

A pet is often liked by everyone and seems to have no enemies. Why is this? Pets are friendly and interested in others. They seem to get joy out of just being with us. They do not have a critical attitude. When mistreated or neglected for a while, they are quick to forgive and quickly seek once again to be by our side.

Each of us is a valuable part of the family. When we treasure one another and don't waste our time finding each other's faults, we will begin to have fewer faults. When we accept our loved ones as they are and enjoy sharing our lives with them, our lives become more enjoyable, and our family love grows because we are each more lovable.

What can I accept in others today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 


Donna Email
01/22

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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1/22/20  Wednesday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, getting over a cold.  It's freezing in Florida! Brrr.   Just for today, I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.
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