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Donna Email
47 minutes ago

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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6/3/20  Wednesday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  With all that's going on, with the pandemic and rioting, which I choose to ignore, I just go to work, come home, feed and walk my dog, and live a quiet life.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
11 hours ago

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June 2nd Hazelden Thought for the Day

Thoughts, rest your wings. Here is a hollow of silence, a nest of stillness, in which to hatch your dreams.

  —Joan Walsh Anglund

There is silence in the nest before an egg is hatched. The mother robin must sit quietly and warm them enough to be hatched. During this time, the mother concentrates only on her eggs. She does not let herself be distracted.

There is a time of silence before anything creative is born. And there is silence in the mind before an idea is discovered. A nest is a safe place birds can always return to and be at home. We all need such a nest of silence - a place where we can be quiet and safe, where we can let ourselves be held, and rest.

Often, our best ideas come out of these quiet moments. Times of silence are good for our souls. Just like the robin eggs hatching, so will dreams and solutions grow out of our own nest of stillness.

How well will I use my quiet time today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved


Reflection for the Day 
17 hours ago

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June 2 Reflection for the Day

In the process of learning to love myself and, in turn,to love others freely with no strings attached,I've begun to understand these words of St. Augustine:"Love slays what we have been,that we may be what we were not."More and more,I feel the enormous power of such love in the Gamblers Anonymous Program;for me,the words "we care" also mean "we love."

Just for today,will I try to be loving in every thought and action?

Today I Pray
I pray that I may feel the enormity and the power of love I find in Gamblers Anonymous.May my own caring be added to that great energy of love that belongs to all of us.May I care with my whole heart that my fellow members maintain their abstinence from gambling and are learning to live with it comfortably and creatively.May I never doubt that they care the same way about me.

Today I Will Remember
Caring makes it happen.


Donna Email
Yesterday at 05:29am

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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6/2/20  Tuesday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  Back to work at the office, and living a low key quiet life.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
06/01

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June 1st Hazelden Thought for the Day


In music, in the sea, in a flower, in a leaf, in an act of kindness... I see what people call God in all these things.

  —Pablo Casals

The Third Step refers to "God as we understood Him." The pathways to meeting our Higher Power and to our spiritual awakening are all around. Every tree and every leaf on every tree, as it rustles in the wind, expresses God in our lives. When the little bird flies overhead or when it comes to visit the feeder, we are being visited by a spirit. When the sky boils with a storm, when lightning and thunder crash, we are witness to power greater than ourselves with a history beyond the centuries. The beautiful works of art created by our fellow human travelers on this journey through life are expressions of their courage to reach out and create something. A line of music moves us and we feel the spirit.

A child makes a drawing and gives it away. A neighbor helps you start your car. You treat the clerk at the checkout counter like a real person. Whatever word we use for God, if we decide to be open and receptive, we find God in the little details of our lives. Spiritual awakening is a wonderful daily occurrence.

God, open my senses to take in your presence more fully.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved


Reflection for the Day  
06/01

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June 1 Reflection for the Day

Slowly, but surely, I'm becoming able to accept other people's faults as well as their virtues. The Gamblers Anonymous Program is teaching me to "always love the best in others - and never fear their worst." This is hardly an easy transition from my old way of thinking, but I'm beginning to see that all people - including me - are to some extent emotionally ill as well as frequently wrong.

Am I approaching true tolerance? Am I beginning to see what real love actually means?

Today I Pray
May God give me tolerance for any shortcomings or sick symptoms or insensitivities of others, so that I can love the qualities that are good in them. May God instruct me in the truest meaning of love - which must also include patience. May I not overlook the faults of those I love, but may I try to understand them.

Today I Will Remember
Love is understanding.


Donna Email
06/01

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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6/1/20 Monday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  A quiet and relaxing weekend, as our state slowly rephases.  Just for today, I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
05/31

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May 31st Hazelden Thought for the Day 

What If?


I was talking to a friend one day about something I planned to do. Actually, I was worrying about how one particular person might react to what I intended to do.

"What if he doesn't handle it very well?" I asked.

"Then," my friend replied, "you're going to have to handle it well."

What if's can make us crazy. They put control over our life in someone else's hands. What if's are a sign that we have reverted to thinking that people have to react in a particular way for us to continue on our course.

What if's are also a clue that we may be wondering whether we can trust ourselves and our Higher Power to do what's best for us. These are shreds of codependent ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving, and they signal fear.

The reactions, feelings, likes or dislikes of others don't have to control our behaviors, feelings, and direction. We don't need to control how others react to our choices. We can trust ourselves, with help from a Higher Power, to handle any outcome - even the most uncomfortable. And, my friend, we can trust ourselves to handle it well.

Today, I will not worry about other people's reactions or events outside of my control. Instead, I will focus on my reactions. I will handle my life well today and trust that, tomorrow, I can do the same.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.



Reflection for the Day  
05/31

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MAY 31 Reflection for the Day

Giving love is a fulfillment in itself. It must not matter whether love is returned or not. If I give love only to get a response on my terms, my love is canceled out by my motives. If I have the capacity to give love, then any return I get for it is a special bonus. It is through giving love, freely and without expectation of return, that we find ourselves and build ourselves spiritually.

Have I begun to believe, in the words of Goethe, that "Love does not dominate; it cultivates..."?

Today I Pray
May I, the inveterate people-pleaser and approval-seeker, know that the only real love does not ask for love back. May God be patient as I try to practice this principle. May I rid myself of pride that throws itself in the way of love. May I discard my silly cat-and-mouse games that have no place in real love.

Today I Will Remember
I will not give love to get love.


Donna Email
05/31

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/20

Location Florida

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5/31/20  Sunday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, it was a quiet Saturday, cleaned, took my Dog to the Dollar Store then to the Causeway, watched some TV, and relaxed.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
05/30

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May 30th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

The cut worm forgives the plow.

  —William Blake

Would anyone believe that rain abuses grass, or accuse roots, hungry for a better hold on life, of digging too far into earth's flesh? And if the earth should have to quake, would anyone blame it for cracking here and there? Look closely at the small world of busy life overturned in the garden each spring. No ant there curses another bug, and no worm curses itself. Though they can neither speak nor think, even small creatures know enough to accept their pain as a natural part of life.

Why, then, should we waste time blaming others, or ourselves, for the natural sensations of life?

In the process of new growth, can we expect no pain?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved


Reflection for the Day  
05/30

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MAY 30 Reflection for the Day

Since I've been in Gamblers Anonymous, I've learned to redefine love. I've come to understand, for example, that sometimes it's necessary to place love ahead of indiscriminate "factual honesty." No longer, under the guise of "perfect honesty," can I cruelly and unnecessarily hurt others. Today, I must always ask myself, "What's the best and most loving thing I can do?"

Have I begun to sow the seeds of love in my daily living?

Today I Pray
May God's love show me how to be loving. May I first sense the feelings of love and caring within me and then find ways to show those feelings. May I remember how many times I cut myself off from relationships because I did not know how either to let myself feel love or to show what I did feel.

Today I Will Remember
When I feel love, I will be loving.


Donna Email
05/30

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
5/30/20  Saturday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, yesterday was the last sales day for the month at our office which gets pretty intense and stressful, however, it felt so good to be back in the office that the stress was actually a joy.  I am grateful to owner of our Company who made a way for all of us to keep our jobs during this pandemic.  Just for today, I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
05/29

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May 29th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

The only people who never fail are those who never try.

  —Ilka Chase

A boy once asked his grandfather how he had become so happy and successful in his life. "Right decisions," replied his grandfather. The boy thought for a while and then asked a second question, "But how do you learn to make right decisions?" The grandfather answered quickly with a twinkle in his eye, "Wrong decisions!"

We, too, will learn from our "wrong decisions," our mistakes. Whenever we try anything, there is always the possibility of failure. We must learn to not let this keep us from trying. When we are willing to try, we have already conquered our fear. We can grow no matter what the outcome is.

What failure have I turned into success?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Reflection for the Day  
05/29

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MAY 29 Reflection for the Day

When we first reached Gamblers Anonymous and for the first time in our lives stood among people who seemed to understand, the sense of belonging was exhilarating. We felt that the problem of isolation had been solved. We soon discovered however, that while we weren't alone anymore in a social sense, we still suffered many of the old pangs of anxious apartness. Until we had talked with complete candor of our conflicts and had listened to someone else do the same thing, we still didn't belong. Step Five was the answer.

Have I found though my Fifth Step the beginning of true kinship with my fellows and God?

Today I Pray
May God help me learn to share myself, my attributes and my failings, not just as I take the Fifth Step but in a continuing give-and-take process with my friends. May I cultivate an attitude of openness and honesty with others, now that I have begun to be honest with myself. May I remember who I used to be - the child in a game of hide-and-seek, who hid so well that nobody could find her or him and everyone gave up trying and went home.

Today I Will Remember
I will be open to friendship.


Donna Email
05/29

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
5/29/20  Friday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  Worked a double shift, and back into a routine, albeit a little different, like having our temperature taken before we walk into the office, and social distancing, but I'm still grateful.  Just for today, I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
05/28

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May 28th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

I sidestep the either/or choices of logic and choose both.
—Ken Feit

Men like us have often had a lifestyle guided by either/or logic. We think we must either conquer the challenge we see before us or we will be failures. We think loved ones must either meet our needs or they do not love us. We think we must either be perfect or we are unacceptable.

Let us now step back from the rigidity of such unhealthy logic. Much of human experience and many answers to our problems don't come in neatly tied packages. As we learn to think and feel in more flexible ways, we find life gets better. Using our intuition at times, rather than always following rigid rules for life, improves the recipe. The arrogance of our thought process has sometimes told us we had the answer, but it closed us to the growth, which only comes by trusting our feelings. If we make mistakes, we can learn from them and go on. Many of the most ingenious inventions came not by rigidly following rules, but by following an inner feeling.

Today, I will be open to more possibilities in my thinking.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation


Reflection for the Day  
05/28

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MAY 28 Reflection for the Day

We've all had times when we felt alienated, when it seemed we had nowhere to turn and no one to turn to. When we don't know which way to turn, when there seems to be no one to help us, even then we're not alone or without help; the presence of God is always with us. When we need strength or courage or comfort, God is there with us as the help we need. Even before we turn to God, His love reaches out to us; His loving Spirit in us hears our cry and answers us.

Do I truly believe that I no longer need to be alone?

Today I Pray
May I never be alone, even in a place by myself, if I take time to talk to my Higher Power. May God be my companion, my joy, my ever-present help in trouble. May the knowledge of that constant presence fill me with calm, so that I will not fear either the solitude of my own room or alienation in a roomful of people.

Today I Will Remember
Listen for the presence of God.


Donna Email
05/28

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
5/28/20  Thursday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  Getting back into a normal routine work, home, reading, tv, yoga and sleep.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
05/27

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May 27th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

If your life is ever going to get better, you'll have to take risks. There is simply no way you can grow without taking chances.

  —David Viscott

One sunny day a caterpillar who was afraid of the dark came to a tunnel, which lay squarely in its path. It had a choice of going back where it started, or summoning the courage to crawl into the darkness. "What shall I do?" wondered the caterpillar. "If I go back home, I won't get where I want to go, but I'm so afraid!"

Just then, a voice called out from the tunnel. "I can hear you, Mr. Caterpillar. I am Mr. Beetle. I am here in the tunnel and I can see the other end. If you come through, you won't lose your fear of the dark, but you will get where you want to go."

We are all like the caterpillar once in a while. But if we let our fear stop us from doing things, which are necessary to our growth, we will never realize what courage we really have.

Is my fear a necessary part of new experiences?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation.
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