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Donna Email
an hour ago

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
2/22/20  Saturday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, it's Saturday and I'm go glad, sometimes my work week is so busy, I come home, walk Roxy, watch a little TV, then bed just so I can do it all again.  Today, I'm going to try to work on some house projects.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
8 hours ago

Comments:
FEBRUARY 22 Reflection for the Day

When I came to Gamblers Anonymous, I found people who knew exactly what I meant when I spoke finally of my fears. They had been where I had been; they understood. I’ve since learned that many of my fears have to do with projection. It’s normal, for example, to have a tiny “back burner” fear that the person I love will leave me. But when the fear takes precedence over my present and very real relationship with the person I’m afraid of losing, then I’m in trouble. My responsibility to myself includes this: I must not fear things that do not exist.

Am I changing from a fearful person into a fearless person?

Today I Pray
I ask God’s help in waving away my fears – those figments, fantasies, monstrous thoughts, projections of disaster that have no bearing on the present. May I narrow the focus of my imagination and concentrate on the here-and-now, for I tend to see the future through a magnifying glass.

Today I Will Remember
Projected fears, like shadows, are larger than life.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
14 hours ago

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February 21st Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Living in the Present

The present moment is all we have. Yes, we have plans and goals, a vision for tomorrow. But now is the only time we possess. And it is enough.

We can clear our mind of the residue of yesterday. We can clear our mind of fears of tomorrow. We can be present, now. We can make ourselves available to this moment, this day. It is by being fully present now that we reach the fullness of tomorrow.

Have no fear, child, a voice whispers. Have no regrets. Relinquish your resentments. Let Me take your pain. All you have is the present moment. Be still. Be here Trust.

All you have is now. It is enough.

Today, I will affirm that all is well around me, when all is well within.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Reflection for the Day  
14 hours ago

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FEBRUARY 21 Reflection for the Day

Do I waste my time and energy wrestling with situations that aren’t actually worth a second thought? Like Don Quixote, the bemused hero of Spanish literature, do I imagine windmills as menacing giants, battling them until I am ready to drop from exhaustion? Today I’ll not allow my imagination to build small troubles into big ones. I’ll try to see each situation clearly, giving it only the value and attention it deserves.

Have I come to believe as the second of the Twelve Steps suggests, that a Power greater than myself can restore me to a normal way of thinking and living?

Today I Pray
God, keep my perspective sane. Help me to avoid aggrandizing petty problems, tying too much significance to casual conversations, making a Vesuvius out of an anthill. Keep my fears from swelling out of scale, like shadows on a wall. Restore my values, which became distorted during the days of my gambling compulsion.

Today I Will Remember
Sanity is perspective.


Donna Email
Yesterday at 05:38am

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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2/21/20  Friday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, worked a double last night.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
02/20

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February 20th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Say what you like: say I'm ill,
Say I broke my leg on the stairs,
Say we've had a fire
—T. S. Eliot

Think of the trouble of excuses and lies. They force us to make ourselves sick, live with a whole broken leg, start some sort of slow burn. When we tell someone we're not at home, we have to hide in that place. When we invent a long line of lies, we have to memorize each one. It's easiest just to come clean, use plain and simple words, and speak true. When accusers spear us with their stares, we can disarm them by looking them right in the eye.

Not only do lies deceive others, they keep us hidden from ourselves, and make our real reasons for the choices we've made seem unworthy, if we feel we can't express them. Better that we be truthful, even if a little pain results. Truth keeps communication lines open. Then, when someone really wants to know what's on our minds, we can simply open our hearts.

Is anything too terrible to tell to a friend?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 


Donna Email
02/20

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
2/20/20  Thursday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery.  It's double shift Thursday, just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
02/19

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FEBRUARY 20 Reflection for the Day

As we are restored to health and become increasingly able to live comfortably in the real world without gambling, we begin to see many things in a new light. Many of us have come to realize, for example, that anger, comes disguised in many shapes and colors: intolerance, sarcasm, distrust, anxiety, envy, cynicism, discontent, self-pity, malice, suspicion, jealousy. As more insights are granted to us, we begin to see how often anger is at the root of many of our restless, uncomfortable feelings. Such insights help us understand our anger and seek new ways to deal with it.

Do I let my feelings get the best of me?

Today I Pray
May I recognize that my anger, like a dancer at a masquerade, displays many forms and many faces. May I strip off its several masks and know it for what it is.

Today I Will Remember
Anger wears a thousand masks.


Reflection for the Day  
02/19

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FEBRUARY 19 Reflection for the Day

When people say rash or ugly things, we sometimes say they are “forgetting themselves,” meaning they’re forgetting their best selves in a sudden outburst of uncontrolled fury. If I remember the kind of person I want to be, hopefully I won’t “forget myself” and yield to a fit of temper. I’ll believe that the positive always defeats the negative: courage overcomes fear: patience overcomes anger and irritability: love overcomes hatred.

Am I always striving for improvement?

Today I Pray
Today I ask that God, to whom all things are possible, help me turn negatives into positives – anger into super-energy, fear into a chance to be courageous, hatred into love. May I take time out to remember examples of such positive-from-negative transformations from the whole of my lifetime. Uppermost is God’s miracle: my freedom from the slavery of gambling addiction.

Today I Will Remember
Turn negatives into positives.


Donna Email
02/19

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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2/19/20  Wednesday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, also getting over a broken heart..yuk. I'm grateful that working on being Gamble Free, my Job, and my Dog Roxy is keeping me busy.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
02/19

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February 18th Hazelden Thought for the Day 
 
He who has a why to live can bear with almost any how.
—Friedrich Nietzsche

Our sense of purpose in life is not fixed in concrete. It changes from youth through all the stages of life. Often in the transitions to a new growth stage we are most confused. In the chaotic life created by our own addictive or codependent thinking, all meaning collapses around us. At these times we wonder, "What is the point?" "Does anything really matter?"

We receive a why for our existence by participating in the whole of this world. We are sons, or fathers, or husbands, or brothers, or friends to very specific people - and to the rest of our community, extending to all of creation. Our sense of purpose may change when life circumstances change. We get married, for instance, and then say, "Now what?" Or a child is born, or a parent dies, or we become disabled. Each time we may be confronted again with the questions. Being open to contact with our world, keeping our barriers down so we stay in touch, restores our awareness of purpose.

May I continue to respond to the changing phases in life - and be open to the renewal of purpose, which is here for me.

 

 
February 19th Hazelden Thought for the Day 
 
Our Path

I just spent several hours with someone from my group, and I feel like I'm losing my mind. This woman insisted that the only way I would make progress in my program was to go to her church and succumb to her religious rules. She pushed and insisted, and insisted and pushed. She's been in the program so much longer than I have. I kept thinking that she must know what she's talking about. But it didn't feel right. And now I feel crazy, afraid, guilty, and ashamed.
—Anonymous

The spiritual path and growth promised to us by the Twelve Steps does not depend on any religious belief. They are not contingent upon any denomination or sect. They are not, as the traditions of Twelve Step programs state, affiliated with any religious denomination or organization.

We do not have to allow anyone to badger us about religion in recovery. We do not have to allow people to make us feel ashamed, afraid, or less than because we do not subscribe to their beliefs about religion.

We do not have to let them do it to us in the name of God, love, or recovery.

The spiritual experience we will find as a result of recovery and the Twelve Steps will be our own spiritual experience. It will be a relationship with God, a Higher Power, as we understand God.

Each of us must find our own spiritual path. Each of us must build our own relationship with God, as we understand God. Each of us needs a Power greater than ourselves. These concepts are critical to recovery.

So is the freedom to choose how to do that.

Higher Power, help me know that I don't have to allow anyone to shame or badger me into religious beliefs. If they confuse that with the spirituality available in recovery, help me give their issue back to them. Help me discover and develop my own spirituality, a path that works for me. Guide me, with Divine Wisdom, as I grow spiritually.

 


Donna Email
02/18

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
2/18/20  Tuesday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  Back to work Monday even though it was a Holiday, good day.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
02/17

Comments:
FEBRUARY 18 Reflection for the Day

We learn in Gamblers Anonymous that we cannot punish anyone without punishing ourselves. The release of my tensions, even justified, in a punishing way leaves behind the dregs of bitterness and pain. This was the monotonous story of my life before I came to Gamblers Anonymous. So in my new life, I'd do well to consider the long-range benefits of simply owning my emotions, naming them, and thus releasing them.

Does the voice of God have a chance to be heard over my reproachful shouting?

Today I Pray
May I avoid name-calling, ego-crushing exchanges. If I am angry, may I try to assign my anger to what someone did instead of what someone is. May I refrain from downgrading, lashing out at character flaws, or mindless abuse. May I count on my Higher Power to show me the way.

Today I Will Remember
To deal with anger appropriately.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
02/17

Comments:

February 17th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Acceptance


Our basic recovery concept that never loses its power to work miracles is the concept called acceptance.

We do not achieve acceptance in a moment. We often have to work through a mirage of feelings - sometimes anger, outrage, shame, self-pity, or sadness. But if acceptance is our goal, we will achieve it.

What is more freeing than to laugh at our weaknesses and to be grateful for our strengths? To know the entire package called "us" - with all our feelings, thoughts, tendencies, and history - is worthy of acceptance and brings healing feelings.

To accept our circumstances is another miraculous cure. For anything to change or anyone to change, we must first accept others, the circumstance, and ourselves exactly as they are. Then, we need to take it one step further. We need to become grateful for our circumstances or ourselves. We add a touch of faith by saying, "I know this is exactly the way it's supposed to be for the moment."

No matter how complicated we get, the basics never lose their power to restore us to sanity.

Today, God, help me practice the concept of acceptance in my life. Help me accept others, my circumstances, and myself. Take me one step further, and help me feel grateful.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Reflection for the Day  
02/17

Comments:
FEBRUARY 17 Reflection for the Day

If I become angry today, I’ll pause and think before I say anything, remembering that my anger can turn back upon me and worsen my difficulties. I’ll try to remember, too, that well-timed silence can give me command of a stressful situation as angry reproaches never can. In such moments of stress, I’ll remember that my power over others is nonexistent, and that only God is all-powerful.

Have I learned that I alone can destroy my own peace of mind?

Today I Pray
May I learn that I can choose how to handle my anger – in silence or as a tantrum, a rage, a fist fight, a pillow fight, a tirade, an elaborate plan to “get back at” whoever caused it, an icy glare, a cool pronouncement of hate – or a simple statement of fact, “I am angry at you because” (in 25 words or less). Or may I, if need be, turn my anger into energy and shovel the walk. bowl, play a game of tennis, or clean the house. I pray that God will show me appropriate ways to deal with my anger.

Today I Will Remember
“I am angry because…”


Donna Email
02/17

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
2/17/15 Monday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, a nice quiet and productive weekend with Roxy my dog.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
02/16

Comments:

February 16th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Shame-filled people feel that something is wrong at their very core. It is a sense of being bad . . .

—Susan Kwiecien

Nobody is rotten to the core. Whenever we start to believe we are bad all the way through, we can picture good things we have done, days when someone else was happy to be with us, and see for ourselves that we have many good points that outweigh the bad.

If we have done something wrong, we must apologize and make amends. Making a mistake is not the same as being worthless. Mistakes are a natural part of living, not something to be ashamed of. Our freedom to make mistakes is one of our greatest assets, for this is the way we learn humility, persistence, courage to take risks, and better ways of doing things. All of us are valuable and lovable. How could we be otherwise? Since mistakes are natural aspects of growth, we can salute them in others and ourselves as signs of life and celebrate our ability to learn and to forgive.

What mistakes have helped me grow?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 


Reflection for the Day  
02/16

Comments:

FEBRUARY 16 Reflection for the Day

What about “justifiable anger”? If somebody cheats us or acts towards us in an outrageous manner, don’t we have the right to be furious? The hard-learned experiences of countless others in the Gamblers Anonymous Program tell us that adventures in rage are usually extremely dangerous. So, while we must recognize anger enough to say “I am angry,” we must not follow the build-up of rage, however justifiable.

Can I accept the fact that, if I am to live, I have to be free of anger?

Today I Pray
Even though I go out of the way to skirt them, may I be aware that there always will be certain situations or certain people who will make me angry. When my anger doesn’t seem justifiable – with arguable reason behind it – I may deny it, even to myself. May I recognize my anger, whether it is reasonable or not, before I bury it alive.

Today I Will Remember
It is all right to feel anger.


Donna Email
02/16

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
2/16/20  Sunday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, I had a quiet Saturday, ran errands, and pretty much stayed close to home.  But it was satisfying.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
02/15

Comments:
February 15th Hazelden Thought for the Day

It is always a mistake not to close one's eyes, whether to forgive or to look better into oneself.
—Maurice Maeterlinck

It is easy to look outward and find faults with the world and people around us. We criticize family members or complain about our friends. We always notice disease in the trees around us.

But if we take time to be quiet, to sit alone in a tree or by a lake, we become more aware of how connected we are to the life around us. We are part of the beauty and the imperfection. When we notice our own tree is not perfect, it becomes easier to forgive the blights of those around us. It is also important to forgive ourselves our faults. Though all the trees are beautiful, they each have their scars. Being human means we are, like all humanity, both beautiful and imperfect.

Will I see through the flaws to another's beauty today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.
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