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Hazelden Thought for the Day  
4 hours ago

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July 23rd Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Making It Happen


Stop trying so hard to make it happen.

Stop doing so much, if doing so much is wearing you out or not achieving the desired results. Stop thinking so much and so hard about it. Stop worrying so about it. Stop trying to force, to manipulate, to coerce, or to make it happen.

Making things happen is controlling. We can take positive action to help things happen. We can do our part. But many of us do much more than our part. We overstep the boundaries from caring and doing our part into controlling, caretaking, and coercing.

Controlling is self-defeating. It doesn't work. By overextending ourselves to make something happen, we may actually be stopping it from happening.

Do your part in relaxed, peaceful harmony. Then let it go. Just let it go. Force yourself to let it go, if necessary. "Act as if." Put as much energy into letting go as you have into trying to control. You'll get much better results.

It may not happen. It may not happen the way we wanted it to and hoped it would. But our controlling wouldn't have made it happen either.

Learn to let things happen because that's what they'll do anyway. And while we're waiting to see what happens, we'll be happier and so will those around us.

Today, I will stop forcing things to happen. Instead, I will allow things to happen naturally. If I catch myself trying to force events or control people, I will stop and figure out a way to detach.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved


Donna Email
5 hours ago

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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7/23/19  Tuesday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery.  Yesterday was our award ceremony for production for the month of June, I was top producer in my department, which I felt honored.  Just for today I will maintain my Gamble Free lifestyle ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
13 hours ago

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JULY 23 Reflection for the Day

Today I’ll try to settle for less than I wish were possible, and be willing to not only accept it but to appreciate it. Today, I’ll not expect too much of anyone - especially myself. I’ll try to remember that contentment comes from gratefully accepting the good that comes to us, and not from being furious at life because it’s not "better."

 

Do I realize the difference between resignation and realistic acceptance?

 

Today I Pray

May I not set my sights unrealistically high, expect too much. May I look backwards long enough to see that my self-set, impossible goals were the trappings of my addiction; too often I ended up halfway there, confronted by my own failure. Those "foiled-again" or "I’ve failed-again" feelings became monumental excuses to give in to my gambling compulsion, which blanketed my miseries. May I avoid that sick old pattern. May I be realistic.

 

Today I Will Remember

Good is good enough.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
Yesterday at 06:52am

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July 22nd Hazelden Thought for the Day 

A good laugh heals a lot of hurts.

  —Madeleine L'Engle

The ability to laugh at ourselves has always been important. In old days, fools and jesters held an important place in the royal courts. Today we have clowns who make us laugh.

If we look closely at a clown's face, we will often notice a bit of sadness around the eyes. Clowns are able to move easily from sad expressions to ones full of delight very easily. For all of us, laughter and tears come from the same deep well inside. And often, after a good cry, we find ourselves ready to laugh, easily and joyfully.

Laughter is a gift waiting for us on the other side of our sadness.

Can I begin to laugh by smiling now?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 


Donna Email
Yesterday at 05:37am

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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7/22/19  Monday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, as I do daily, still maintaining a Gamble Free lifestyle and learning more and more about the things I missed because of my addiction.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
07/21

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JULY 22 Reflection for the Day

Gamblers Anonymous has taught me that the essence of all growth for me is a willingness to change for the better. Following that, I must have further willingness to shoulder whatever responsibility this entails, and to take courageously every action that is required.

 

"I am and know and will;

I am knowing and willing;

I know myself to be and to will;

I will to be and to know."

 -St. Augustine

 

Is willingness a key ingredient of my life and the way I work the GA Program?

 

Today I Pray

I pray for willingness to do what I can, willingness to be what I can be, and - what is sometimes hardest - willingness to be what I am. I pray, too, for energies to carry out my willingness in all that I do, so that I may grow in the ways of God and practice the principles of the Program in all my affairs.

 

Today I Will Remember

"I am and know and will."


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
07/21

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July 21st Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Being Is Enough


We are not always clear about what we are experiencing, or why.

In the midst of grief, transition, transformation, learning, healing, or discipline - it's difficult to have perspective.

That's because we have not learned the lesson yet. We are in the midst of it. The gift of clarity has not yet arrived.

Our need to control can manifest itself as a need to know exactly what's going on. We cannot always know. Sometimes, we need to let ourselves be and trust that clarity will come later, in retrospect.

If we are confused, that is what we are supposed to be. The confusion is temporary. We shall see. The lesson, the purpose, shall reveal itself - in time, in its own time.

It will all make perfect sense - later.

Today, I will stop straining to know what I don't know, to see what I can't see, to understand what I don't yet understand. I will trust that being is sufficient, and let go of my need to figure things out.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved


Donna Email
07/21

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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7/21/19  Sunday,  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, went to a Red Hat Society Luncheon yesterday and had a great time. For those of your struggling with your addiction its not easy, but it gets easier.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
07/20

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JULY 21 Reflection for the Day

When we're faced with some condition or situation not to our liking, how can we have faith that all things are working together for good? Perhaps we have to ask ourselves just what is faith. Faith has its foundation in truth and love. We can have faith, if we so choose, no matter what the situation. And, if we so choose, we can expect ultimate good to come forth.

 

Have I made my choice?

 

Today I Pray

May I be grateful for my God-given ability to make a choice. Out of this gratitude and my sense of the nearness of God, I have chosen faith. May that faith, as my chosen way, become strong enough to move mountains, strong enough to keep me free of my compulsion to gamble, mighty enough to hold back the tide of temptations that threaten me, optimistic enough to look past my present pain to ultimate happiness.

 

Today I Will Remember

With faith, nothing is impossible.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
07/20

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July 20th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

It is ironic that the one thing that all religions recognize as separating us from our Creator — our very self-consciousness — is also the one thing that divides us from our fellow creatures.
  —Annie Dillard

Getting outside of ourselves, moving beyond our own egos, opens the door to real communication with the people we'll meet today. We have to learn to look with loving appreciation into the soul of that person or child who stands before us. We have to practice being concerned with their needs before our own, and in time our concern will be genuine. The separation between us will exist no more.

This division from others, the barrier that keeps us apart, comes from our individual insecurities. We have grown accustomed to the quick comparisons of ourselves with those we meet. Either inferior or superior we determine them to be, and thus ourselves. Whatever gifts we have to offer each other are left unwrapped, at least for now.

Let's come together, truly together, with someone we've been holding off until now. We can trust that the people who have come into our lives are there by design. We are equal to them, and they to us. We need what they have to offer us, and their growth needs our gifts, too.

I will appreciate the design of my life today. I will draw myself close to the day.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey © 1982, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation.


Reflection for the Day  
07/20

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JULY 20 Reflection for the Day

"It is the privilege of wisdom to listen," Oliver Wendell Holmes once wrote. If I try as hard as I can to cultivate the art of listening - uncritically and without making premature judgments - chances are great that I'll progress more rapidly in my recovery. If I try as hard as I can to listen to the feelings and thoughts expressed - rather than to the "speaker" - I may be blessed with an unexpectedly helpful idea. The essential quality of good listening is humility, which reflects the fact that God's voice speaks to us even through the least and most inarticulate of His children.

 

Does my holier-than-thou attitude sometimes close my mind to the shared suggestions of others?

 

Today I Pray

May my Higher Power keep me from being "holier-than-thou" with anyone whose manner or language or opposite point of view or apparent lack of knowledge turns me off to what they are saying. May I be listening always for the voice of God, which can be heard through the speech of any one of us.

 

Today I Will Remember

Hear the speech, not the speaker.


Donna Email
07/20

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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7/20/19 Saturday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery checking in.  I'm settling in to my new job responsibilities and less stress. I slept in this morning and it felt good.  I have a Christian Women's Red Hat Society Luncheon which I enjoy.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
07/19

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July 19th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Trust takes time. If you don't invest it, then you don't get it.

  —Anonymous

Trusting other human beings is like planting a garden. First we must choose where to plant - is the soil healthy, is it open to sunlight? We would not plant seeds on rocks that are hard and un-giving. In the same way, we need to choose friends who are trustworthy, who are like rich soil open to planting and sunlight.

Then we need to plant the seeds of time and care. If we share some of our feelings and are welcomed, we will know it is safe to share more. We can share ourselves in our own time - even a garden grows slowly, and can take only so much sun and rain in one day.

Having trust in someone feeds the spirit. Trust also gives us the courage to be beautiful, like the flowers of our gardens.

Am I brave enough to trust others and to be worthy of their trust?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. 


Donna Email
07/19

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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7/19/19  Friday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  Maintaining a GF lifestyle and learning better ways to deal with stress.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
07/18

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JULY 19 Reflection for the Day

Many of us come to the Gamblers Anonymous Program professing that we're agnostic or atheistic. As someone once put it, our will to disbelieve is so strong that we prefer a date with the undertaker to an experimental and open-minded search for a Higher Power. Fortunately for those of us with closed minds, the constructive forces in the GA Program almost always overcome our obstinacy. Before long, we discover the bountiful world of faith and trust. It was there all along, but we lacked the willingness and open-mindedness to accept it.

 

Does obstinacy still sometimes blind me to the power for good that resides in faith?

 

Today I Pray

I want to thank my Higher Power for this opportunity to open my mind; to learn again about faith and trust; to realize that my wanderings from honesty and reality did not change God's place within me or God's loving concern for me. May I know that it was my own doing that I lost faith. Thank God for another chance to believe.

 

Today I Will Remember

Discard the will to disbelieve.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
07/18

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July 18th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

The great end of life is not knowledge but action.

  —Thomas Huxley

Sometimes we have good ideas about how to make things better. We might know we need to spend more quality time with others. We might know it would be better if mealtime was not so hectic and really became a time for sharing the day's events. Knowing what needs to happen is part of the process of change. But we have to put that knowledge into action.

All our good intentions, no matter what they may be, do not really mean anything until we move into action. A hug is better than a thought of love; a story read together is better than a wonderful vacation that did not get past the planning stage, just as a finished house is something we can live in, while the blueprint is soon forgotten. When we act on our ideas, we put ourselves into the world as a force for change.

What change can I set loose in the world today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation


Donna Email
07/18

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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7/18/19  Thursday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  Worked a double shift last night, and I think as soon as my head hit the pillow I was out.  Learning that it's okay not to do everything, that I can do the best that I can do.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day 
07/17

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JULY 18 Reflection for the Day

Very few of us know what we really want, and none of us knows what is best for us. That knowledge is in the hands of God. This is a fact I must ultimately accept, in spite of my rebelliousness and stubborn resistance. From this day forward, I'll limit my prayers to requests for guidance, an open mind to receive it, and the strength to act upon it. To the best of my capability, I'll defer all decisions until my contact with my Higher Power has made it seemingly apparent that the decisions are right for me.

 

Do I "bargain" with my Higher Power, assuming that I know what's best for me?

 

Today I Pray

May I not try to make pacts with my Higher Power. Instead, may I be a vessel, open to whatever inspiration God wishes to pour into me. I pray that I will remember that God's decisions are better for me than my own fumbling plans, and that they will come to me at the times I need them.

 

Today I Will Remember

I will not bargain - or bet - with God.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
07/17

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July 17th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

I loafe and invite my soul, I lean and loafe at my ease observing a spear of summer grass.
  —Walt Whitman

How foreign the thought is to many men that we might make progress by loafing. Yet we probably have experienced it. We have felt more in tune with ourselves after taking a break. After an especially relaxing weekend we feel more alive or clearer about ourselves. At those times we have invited our soul and have been rejuvenated.

Centuries of spiritual practice from different ideologies have taught the need for quiet relaxation in some form to invite the soul. Some have practiced a Sabbath day each week, others a time of prayer every day - even several times a day - others have practiced a daily period of deep meditation. Simply a period of loafing, with no particular goal in mind, may invite conscious contact with our Higher Power.

I pray for the ability to set aside my busy pace of life, my worrying and fretting, my "take charge" attitude for a period of time today.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Donna Email
07/17

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
7/17/19  Wednesday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery. Checking in, double shift Wednesday.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.
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