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Reflection for the Day 
8 hours ago

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AUGUST 10 Reflection for the Day

We’ve been our own worst enemies most of our lives, and we’ve often injured ourselves seriously as a result of a "justified" resentment over a slight wrong. Doubtless there are many causes for resentment in the world, most of them providing "justification." But we can never begin to settle all the world’s grievances or even arrange things so as to please everybody. If we’ve been treated unjustly by others or simple by life itself, we can avoid compounding the difficulty by completely forgiving the persons involved and abandoning the destructive habit of reviewing our hurts and humiliations.

 

Can I believe that yesterday’s hurt is today’s understanding, rewoven into tomorrow’s love?

 

Today I Pray

Whether I am unjustly treated or just think I am, may I try not to be a resentful person, stewing over past injuries. Once I have identified the root emotion behind my resentment, may I be big enough to forgive the person involved and wise enough to forget the whole thing.

 

Today I Will Remember

Not all injustice can be fixed.


Donna Email
12 hours ago

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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8/10/20  Monday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, it was a great weekend got so much done.  Errands, laundry, work on my house.   Today, I have a new group of employee's starting for my team, I'm praying they all work out. 
Just for today, I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
22 hours ago

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August 9th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

What is without periods of rest will not endure.

  —Ovid

When we are tired, we need to stop and give ourselves time to rest. Sometimes we think we can't spare the time. But without rest, all our activity soon becomes a burden and there is no joy in it. Animals know it is necessary to take time to rest. This is part of the rhythm of life: activity and rest, effort and relaxation.

Our bad moods are often our body's way of telling us we need rest. When we were little, we needed naps. Somehow, we forget to allow ourselves this right when we are older. We are wise to remember we never outgrow this need for rest to make the day go better.

When we return to our day refreshed, we have given ourselves and all those around us the gift of ourselves at our best.

What can I do better when I am rested?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 


Reflection for the Day  
Yesterday at 12:49pm

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AUGUST 9 Reflection for the Day

 

On numerous occasions, I’ve found that there’s a strong connection between my fears and my resentments. If I secretly fear that I’m inadequate, for example, I’ll tend to resent deeply anybody whose actions or words expose my imagined inadequacy. But it’s usually too painful to admit that my own fears and doubts about myself are the cause of my resentments. It’s a lot easier to pin the blame on someone else’s "bad behavior" or "selfish motives" - and use that as the justification for my resentments.

 

Do I realize that by resenting someone, I allow that person to live rent-free in my head?

 

Today I Pray

May God help me overcome my feelings of inadequacy. May I know that when I consistently regard myself as a notch or two lower than the next person, I am not giving due credit to my Creator, who has given each of us a special and worthwhile blend of talents I am, in fact, grumbling about God’s Divine Plan. May I look behind my trash-pile of resentments for my own self-doubt.

 

Today I Will Remember

As I build myself up, I tear down my resentments.

 


Donna Email
Yesterday at 05:43am

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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8/9/20  Sunday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  Yesterday was my laundry and errands day, and I binged watched LMN TV all day.  Today is church, and working on my little house.  Just for today I will remain Gamble free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
08/08

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August 8th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Saying Yes


Yesterday we talked about learning to say no. Today, let's discuss another important word: Yes.

We can learn to say yes to things that feel good, to what we want - for others and ourselves.

We can learn to say yes to fun. Yes to meetings, to calling a friend, asking for help.

We can learn to say yes to healthy relationships, to people and activities that are good for us.

We can learn to say yes to ourselves, what we want and need, our instincts, and the leading of our Higher Power.

We can learn to say yes when it feels right to help someone. We can learn to say yes to our feelings. We can learn to identify when we need to take a walk, take a nap, have our back rubbed, or buy ourselves flowers.

We can learn to say yes to work that is right for us.

We can learn to say yes to all that will nurture and nourish us. We can learn to say yes to the best life and love has to offer.

Today, I will say yes to all that feels good and right.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Katy 
08/08

Last Day You Placed A Bet August 8, 2020

Location Oahu

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Aloha,

May name is Katy. I’ve placed my last bet. Ive been in precontemplative mode for a year! I’m done giving my money away. Thanks for letting me visit this board


Reflection for the Day  
08/08

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AUGUST 8 Reflection for the Day

As a recovering compulsive gambler, I have to remind myself that no amount of social acceptance of resentments will take the poison out of them. In a way, the problem of resentments is very much like the gambling problem. A poker game or casino is never safe for me. I’ve attended benefits for worthy causes, often in a convivial atmosphere that makes gambling seem almost harmless.

 

Just as I politely but adamantly decline gambling under any conditions, will I also refuse to accept resentments?

 

Today I Pray

When anger, hurt, fear, or guilt - to be socially acceptable - put on their polite, party manners, dress up as resentments, and come in the side door, may I not hobnob with them. These emotions, disguised as they are, can be as full of trickery as gambling itself.

 

Today I Will Remember

Keep an eye on the side door.


Donna Email
08/08

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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8/8/20  Saturday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, it was a hectic week but I'm so glad its Friday.  Today is my errands, laundry and getting stuff done day.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
08/07

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August 7th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Saying No


For many of us, the most difficult word to say is one of the shortest and easiest in the vocabulary: No. Go ahead, say it aloud: No.

No - simple to pronounce, hard to say. We're afraid people won't like us, or we feel guilty. We may believe that a "good" employee, child, parent, spouse, or Christian never says no.

The problem is, if we don't learn to say no, we stop liking ourselves and the people we always try to please. We may even punish others out of resentment.


When do we say no? When no is what we really mean.

When we learn to say no, we stop lying. People can trust us, and we can trust ourselves. All sorts of good things happen when we start saying what we mean.

If we're scared to say no, we can buy some time. We can take a break, rehearse the word, and go back and say no. We don't have to offer long explanations for our decisions.

When we can say no, we can say yes to the good. Our no's and our yes's begin to be taken seriously. We gain control of ourselves. And we learn a secret: "No" isn't really that hard to say.

Today, I will say no if that is what I mean.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Reflection for the Day  
08/07

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AUGUST 7 Reflection for the Day

What can we do about our resentments? Experience has shown that the best thing to do is to write them down, listing people, institutions, or principles that are objects of our anger or resentment. When I write down my resentments and then ask myself why I’m resentful, I’ve discovered that in most cases my self-esteem, my finances, my ambitions, or my personal relationships have been hurt or threatened.

 

Will I ever learn that the worst thing about my resentments is my endless rehearsal of my acts of retribution?

 

Today I Pray

May God help me find a way to get rid of my resentments. May I give up the hours spent making up little playlets, in which I star as the angry man or woman cleverly shouting down the person who has threatened me. Since these dramas are never produced, may I instead list my resentful feelings and look at the why’s behind each one. May this be a way of shelving them.

 

Today I Will Remember

Resentments cause violence: resentments cause illness in nonviolent people.


Donna Email
08/07

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

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8/7/20 Friday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, and so very glad it's Friday, work has been grueling, but I'm grateful.  Just for today I will remaing Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
08/06

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August 6th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Solving Problems

Problems are made to be solved!

Some of us spend more time reacting to the fact that we have a problem than we do solving the problem. "Why is this happening to me?" . . . "Isn't life awful?" . . . "How come this had to happen?" . . . "Oh, dear. This is terrible." . . . "Why is God (the Universe, an agency, a person, or life) picking on me?"

Problems are inevitable. Some problems can be anticipated. Some are surprises. But the idea that problems occur regularly need never be a surprise.

The good news is that for every problem, there's a solution. Sometimes the solution is immediate. Sometimes, it takes awhile to discover. Sometimes, the solution involves letting go. Sometimes, the problem is ours to solve; sometimes it isn't. Sometimes, there is something we can clearly do to solve the problem; other times, we need to struggle, flounder, do our part, and then trust our Higher Power for help.

Sometimes, the problem is just part of life. Sometimes, the problem is important because we are learning something through the problem and its solution. Sometimes, problems end up working out for good in our life. They get us headed in a direction that is superior to one we may otherwise have taken.

Sometimes, problems just are; sometimes they are a warning sign that we are on the wrong track.

We can learn to accept problems as an inevitable part of life. We can learn to solve problems. We can learn to trust our ability to solve problems. We can learn to identify which problems are trying to lead us in a new direction, and which simply ask for solving.

We can learn to focus on the solution rather than on the problem, and maintain a positive attitude toward life and the inevitable flow of problems and solutions.

Today, I will learn to trust solutions, rather than be victimized by problems. I will not use problems to prove I am helpless, picked on, or martyred. I will not point to my problems to prove how awful life is. I will learn to trust the flow of problems and solutions. God, help me solve the problems I can solve today. Help me let go of the rest. Help me believe in my ability to tackle and solve problems. Help me trust the flow. For each problem, there is a solution.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Reflection for the Day  
08/06

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AUGUST 6 Reflection for the Day

Sometimes through bitter experience and painful lessons, we learn in our fellowship with others in Gamblers Anonymous that resentment is our number one enemy. It destroys more of us than anything else. From resentment stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we’ve been not only mentally and physically ill, but spiritually ill as well. As we recover and as our spiritual illness is remedied, we become well physically and mentally.

 

Am I aware that few things are more bitter than to feel bitter? Do I see that my venom is more poisonous to me than to my victim?

 

Today I Pray

I ask for help in removing the pile of resentments I have collected. May I learn that resentments are play-actors, too; they may be fears - losing a job, a love, an opportunity; they may be hurts or guilty feelings. May I know that God is my healer. May I admit my need.

 

Today I Will Remember

Resentments are rubbish; haul them away.


Donna Email
08/06

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
8/6/20 Thursday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  Still maintaining a Gamble Free lifestyle.  Just for today I will remain Gamble free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
08/05

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August 5th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Attitudes Toward Money


Sometimes, our life and history may be so full of pain that we think it totally unfair that we have to grow up now and be financially responsible for ourselves.

The feeling is understandable; the attitude is not healthy. Many people in recovery may believe that certain people in particular, and life in general, owes them a living after what they've been through.

To feel good about ourselves, to find the emotional peace and freedom we're seeking in recovery, we need healthy boundaries about money - what we give to others, and what we allow ourselves to receive from others.

Do we feel that others owe us money because we cannot take care of ourselves? Do we believe others owe us because we do not have as much money as they do? Do we consciously or subconsciously believe that they "owe" us money because of emotional pain we suffered as a result of our relationship with them or another person?

Punitive damages are awarded in court, but not in recovery.

Unhealthy boundaries about what we allow ourselves to receive from others will not lead to healthy relationships with others or ourselves.

Test by looking within. The key is our attitude. The issue is boundaries about receiving money. Become willing to meet the challenge of taking responsibility for yourself.

Today, I will strive for clear, healthy boundaries about receiving money from others. As part of my recovery, I will take a hard look at my financial history and examine whether I have taken money that may not reflect good boundaries. If I uncover some incidents that reflect less than an attitude of healthy self-responsibility, I will become willing to make amends and develop a reasonable plan to do that.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 


Reflection for the Day  
08/05

Comments:

AUGUST 5 Reflection for the Day

Among the important things we learn in Gamblers Anonymous is to be good to ourselves. For so many of us, though, this is a surprisingly difficult thing to do. Some of us relish our suffering so much that we balloon each happening to enormous proportions in the reliving and telling. Self-pitiers are drawn to martyrdom as if by a powerful magnet - until the joys of serenity and contentment come to them through the GA Program and Twelve Steps.

 

Am I gradually learning to be myself?

 

Today I Pray

May I learn to forgive myself. I have asked - and received - forgiveness from God and from others, so why is it so hard to forgive myself? Why do I still magnify my suffering? Why do I go on licking my emotional wounds? May I follow God’s forgiving example, get on with the Program, and learn to be good to myself.

 

Today I Will Remember

Martyrdom; martyr dumb.


Donna Email
08/05

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
8/5/20  Wednesday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, yesterday was a very productive day at work.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
08/04

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August 4th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Vulnerability


I've learned that the more vulnerable I allow myself to be, the more in control of myself I really am.
  —Anonymous

Many of us feel that we can only show our strong, confident side. We believe the face we have to show to the world should always be one of politeness, perfection, calm, strength, and control.

While it is certainly good and often appropriate to be in control, calm, and strong, there is another side to all of us - that part of us that feels needy, becomes frightened, has doubts, and gets angry. That part of us that needs care, love, and reassurance those things will be okay. Expressing these needs makes us vulnerable and less than perfect, but this side needs our acceptance too.

Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable will help us build lasting relationships. Sharing our vulnerabilities helps us feel close to people and helps others feel close to us. It helps us grow in self-love and self-acceptance. It helps us become healing agents. It allows us to become whole and accessible to others.

Today, I will allow myself to be vulnerable with others when it's safe and appropriate to do so.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 


Reflection for the Day  
08/04

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AUGUST 4 Reflection for the Day

One of the best ways to get out of the self-pity trap is to do some "instant bookkeeping." For every entry of misery on the debit side of our ledger, we can surely find a blessing to mark on the credit side: the health we enjoy, the illnesses we don’t have, the friends who love us and who allow us to love them, a clean twenty-four hours, a good day’s work. If we only try, we can easily list a whole string of credits that will far outweigh the debit entries that bring about self-pity.

 

Is my emotional balance on the credit side today?

 

Today I Pray

May I learn to sort out my debits and credits, and add it all up. May I list my several blessings on the credit side. May my ledger show me, when all is totaled, a fat fund of good things to draw on.

 

Today I Will Remember

I have blessings in my savings.

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