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Donna Email
02/15

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:

2/15/20  Saturday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive

Gambler in Recovery.  Spent Valentines Day with my dog Roxy, and I was totally okay with it.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
02/14

Comments:

FEBRUARY 15 Reflection for the Day

When I become angry, can I admit to it and state it as a fact without allowing it to build up and burst out in inappropriate ways? Pent-up anger, I’ve finally begun to learn, quickly shatters the peace of mind that’s so critical to my ongoing recovery. When I become enraged and lose control, I unwittingly hand over control to the person, place, or thing with which I am enraged.

When I’m angry will I try to remember that I’m endangering myself? Will I “count to ten” by calling a friend in the Gamblers Anonymous Program and say the Serenity Prayer Aloud?

Today I Pray
May I recognize angry feelings and let them out a little at a time, stating my anger as a fact, instead of allowing it to fester into rage and explode uncontrollably.

Today I Will Remember
Anger is. Rage need not be.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
02/14

Comments:
February 14th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Friendship of a kind that cannot easily be reversed tomorrow must have its roots in common interests and shared beliefs.
  —Barbara W. Tuchman

The gift of friendship has been extended to each of us sharing this program. Our interest is common: we want to stay abstinent. And we share the belief that a power greater than ourselves can restore us to sanity. We trust our commitment to one another here. We are learning to live the program's principles in all our affairs.

In years gone by, friendships were often missing from our lives. We had a friend, here and there, certainly, but could she really be trusted - with our secrets, with our spouse? An overriding fear and one not without reason. It's likely that we, too, failed to be good friends. Friendship, anytime, means risking vulnerability. It means making a decision to be trustworthy. And it means not backing away from either, anytime.

Friendships so enrich our lives; they complete us. The experiences shared among friends give us all an edge on living. It is no accident that we have been drawn here together. What we have will help another.

I must be willing to give away my intimate self to my sisters in trust. My strength as a woman recovering will increase as my ties of friendship increase.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey © 1982, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation.


Donna Email
02/14

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:

2/14/20  Friday   Happy Valentines Day!   My name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  Maintaining a Gamble Free, life, tonight my Church has a Valentines Dinner for Couples, Widows and Widowers.  That's where I will be.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
02/13

Comments:
FEBRUARY 14 Reflection for the Day

Writing down the things I am grateful for helps me switch from a negative to a positive attitude. Today I will take the time to list the positive aspects of my new life and the blessings that accompany the miracles of my recovery. I am grateful for such seemingly simple things: the ability to fall asleep with contentment, to awaken with a gladness to be alive, to face life on life’s terms – with peace of mind and self-respect.

Have I forgotten that all my needs are being met today? On a daily basis, do I count my blessings?

Today I Pray
On this day of love-giving, may I count all the good things in my life and give thanks for them. May I take no blessing for granted, including the beating of my own heart and the fresh feel of new air as I breathe.

Today I Will Remember
To count – and consider – my blessings.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
02/13

Comments:

February 13th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

It is a cheap generosity, which promises the future in compensation for the present.

—J. A. Spender

Living in this moment is all we really have. We are constantly bombarded with advice to live for the future, but it perpetually exists beyond our grasp like the carrot tempting the donkey. We are told to be mindful of our career paths, to save for the future, and to sacrifice now for later rewards. We put off spending time with our children, but later they are no longer the same children. We postpone seeing friends now and discover later that we have lost our relationships.

Of course, we can't be foolish about our future. We need to make some plans and delay some immediate pleasures. But for now, we can only have a rapport with others and ourselves and experience life in this moment. The present is the only time when anything can happen, any change can occur. This moment is like a fresh, cool breeze. The rest exists only in our imaginations or memories.

May I feel the exhilaration of being alive in this moment and maintain a balance in my perspective today.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved


Donna Email
02/13

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
2/13/20  Thursday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, worked a double last night, and ready for a new day.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
02/12

Comments:
FEBRUARY 13 Reflection for the Day

We sometimes hear someone say, “He is standing in his own light.” A mental picture then clearly reveals that many of us tend to shadow our own happiness by mistaken thinking. Let us learn to stand aside so the light can shine on us and all we do. For only then can we see ourselves and our circumstances with true clarity. With the Gamblers Anonymous Program of Recovery, we no longer need to stand in our own light and try alone to solve our problems in darkness.

When I am faced with a seemingly insolvable problem, will I ask myself if I am standing in my own light?

Today I Pray
May I not get in my own way, obscure my own clarity of thought, stumble over my own feet, block my own doorway to recovery. If I find that I am standing in my own light, may I ask my Higher Power and my friends in the group to show me a new vantage point.

Today I Will Remember
If all I can see is my own shadow, I’m in my own light .


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
02/12

Comments:

February Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Oh, a trouble's a ton, or a trouble's an ounce, Or a trouble is what you make it, And it isn't the fact that you're hurt that counts, But only how you take it.

  —Edmund Vance Cooke

Once, a woman decided to throw a problem-exchange party. As guests arrived, they shed all their personal problems and tossed them onto a pile with everyone else's. After all had discussed their own problem for others to hear, the party ended with guests selecting from the problem pile those they wished to carry away. Each person left with the same troubles he or she had brought to the party.

We who worry a great deal about our problems are always sure no one else has troubles as bad as ours. Too often, we complain, "If you had my problems, you'd really hurt." Our problems are tailored to us, and geared to help us learn by solving them. No one else's would be quite right.

When we cope with problems, rather than wailing about them, we discover that our own are minor irritations compared to those we see in others.

What problems am I lucky to have?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 


Donna Email
02/12

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
2/12/20  Wednesday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  Today is double shift day at work, just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
02/11

Comments:
FEBRUARY 12 Reflection for the Day

I am grateful for my friends in the Gamblers Anonymous Program. Right now I am aware of the blessings of friendship – the blessings of meeting, of sharing, of smiling, of listening, and of being available when needed. Right now I know that if I want a friend, I must be a friend.

Will I vow, this day, to be a better friend to more people? Will I strive, this day – in my thoughts, words, and actions – to disclose the kind of friend I am?

Today I Pray
May I restore in kind to GA’s Fellowship the friendship I have so hungrily taken from it. After years of glossing my lonely existence with superficial acquaintanceships, may I learn again the reciprocal joys of caring and sharing.

Today I Will Remember
Be a friend.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
02/11

Comments:

February 11th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Too much agreement kills a chat.

  —Eldridge Cleaver

Many of us haven't learned there is room for disagreement in a relationship. Some men who grew up in addicted families saw a lot of pain, anger, and quarreling. Many learned to be always pleasing and agreeable, no matter how they felt. Others took it as a personal insult when someone disagreed with them.

We choke the vitality and excitement in our love relationships if we are too intent on avoiding conflict. Nothing can be resolved if we smooth everything over. Differences between people don't just go away. If we don't bring them out, they fester and create silent tension or boredom. If we willingly express our thoughts and feelings, we can learn how to resolve our disagreements and to appreciate each other for our differences as well as our similarities. If two people in a relationship were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.

Today, I will try to be more open about my differences with people, not as a way of fighting, but as a way of letting them know me better.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 


Donna Email
02/11

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
2/11/20  Tuesday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in.  Still Gamble Free, ODAAT. 


Reflection for the Day  
02/10

Comments:
February 11 Reflection of the Day

I can always take strength and comfort from knowing I belong to a world wide Fellowship. Thousands just like me are working together for the same purpose. None of us needs ever to be alone again, because each of us in own way works for the good of others. We are bound together by a common problem that can be solved by love and understanding and mutual service. The Gamblers Anonymous Program – like the little wheel in the old hymn – runs by the grace of God.

Have I thanked God today for helping me find G.A., which is showing me the way to a new life?

Today I Pray
May my thanks be lifted to God each day for dispelling my self-inflicted loneliness, for warming my stoicism, for leading me to the boundless fund of friendship in the G.A. Program.

Today I will Remember.
I have a world of friends.


Mike K. Email
02/10

Last Day You Placed A Bet February, 12th-----2011

Location Michigan

Comments:
Prayer means different things to different people. I see it as being a form of "communication". But communication with what?? With LIFE. It's that simple. God gave me everything I need at birth. Not necessary to use words when communicating with God. Being in awe of the night sky is good enough for me. What completely destroys my connection with God is GAMBLING. One pull of a slot machine and I have left reality......may we all have a gamble free day.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
02/10

Comments:

February 10th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert's there are few.

  —Shunryu Suzuki

As we travel the path of recovery, we are sometimes overwhelmed by a feeling of how much we lack. It rises within us as a feeling of inadequacy, emptiness, or loneliness. We are in pain because we feel like such beginners. Now we need to discard our competitive thinking, our drive to be on top, and accept another, wiser, way of seeing. The big difference is in being on the path of recovery rather than lost on some diversion, as we have been in the past. It is not important how far along we are or who is ahead of whom. The important thing is that we are on the path and experiencing the process.

In recovery, wisdom comes with staying a beginner. Then we remain open to further learning. In some sense this program and our mutual powerlessness are the great levelers. Once on the path, we are all equals.

Today, I will appreciate my vulnerability. It keeps me spiritually alive and growing.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Donna Email
02/10

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
2/10/20  Monday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, took my Dog to the beach after church yesterday, and really enjoyed myself, haven't done that in years.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought of the Day  
02/09

Comments:

February 9th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

We have seen too much defeatism, too much pessimism, too much of a negative approach. The answer is simple: if you want something very badly, you can achieve it. It may take patience, very hard work, a real struggle, and a long time; but it can be done . . . faith is a prerequisite of any undertaking. . . . 

  —Margo Jones

How many dreams have we let die? How many projects did we start, only to leave them unfinished? How many times have we promised ourselves, "This time will be different," but then didn't work to make it so? Negativity breeds more negativity. Fortunately, its opposite does likewise. Our attitude will carry us a long way. And a positive attitude will make all things possible.

We are meant for good living. But we must seek it out and be open to its invitation, be willing to put forth the necessary effort. Our dreams are our invitations to move forward, to strive for a further goal. And having faith in our ability to achieve our dreams will make easier the necessary steps.

We have been blessed with dreams, all of us. They are gifts meant to stretch our capabilities.

I can trust my dreams and aspirations. They are mine, alone, and special to me. Achievement is possible; faith and a positive attitude will ease my efforts.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey © 1982, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation


Reflection for the Day 
02/09

Comments:
February 10 Reflection of the Day

IBM founder T. J. Watson said, “Success is on the far side of failure.” For most compulsive gamblers, nothing could be truer. Without failure upon failure, we would never be capable of seeing that losing the bet was not the cause of problems in our life; it was making the bet in the first place. Only after we reached or exceeded our painful threshold for failures were we able to recognize that, conversely, success does not mean winning; success means not making the wager. Then success becomes dependent upon the action – our choice not to gamble – rather than the reaction.

Am I hopeful that, if my failings are behind me, success is surely ahead?

Today I Pray
May I understand that only through my failings have I been given a chance for success. May I know from the examples of others in the Program that former failings, once faced and rectified, can be a more solid foundation for a new life than any chance winnings.

Today I will Remember.
Failings can be footings for recovery.


Donna Email
02/09

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
2/9/20  Sunday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, Saturday was very productive, I grocery shopped and did my laundry, took Roxy out for several walks and cleaned.   Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.
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