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Donna Email
06/23

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
6/23/20  Tuesday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a CG in Recovery, checking in.  It was a very productive Monday at work.  Walked my dog Roxy and watched TV.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
06/22

Comments:

June 22nd Hazelden Thought for the Day 

When fate hands us a lemon, let's try to make lemonade.

  —Dale Carnegie

Good fortune is built on misfortune. By losing a race we learn what mistakes to avoid next time we run. A burglar may make us install the lock that will keep out a murderer. Each time a toddler falls is a lesson in how to walk.

We can never assume that, because things are not going the way we want, they are not following a better plan. God is a better manager than we can hope to be. If things aren't shaping up the way we like, let's wait with curiosity to see that better things are in store for us. Let's look for lights in the darkness and follow them to the bright day that always will follow. We will remember our lessons of misfortune with gratitude.

What can I learn from delay today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©1985, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved


Reflection for the Day  
06/22

Comments:
JUNE 22 Reflection for the Day

The minute we think about a twisted or broken relationship with another person, our emotions go on the defensive. To avoid looking at the wrongs we've done another, we resentfully focus on the wrong he or she has done us. With a sense of triumph, we seize upon his or her slightest misbehavior as the perfect excuse for minimizing or forgetting our own. We have to remember that we're not the only ones plagued by sick emotions. Often, we're really dealing with fellow sufferers, including those whose woes we've increased.

If I'm about to ask forgiveness for myself, why shouldn't I forgive the other person too?

Today I Pray
When I blame or fault-find, may my Higher Power tell me to look under the rug for my own feeling of guilt, which I have neatly swept under it. May I recognize these behavior clues for what they really are.

Today I Will Remember
Resentment, inside-out, is guilt.


Donna Email
06/22

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
6/22/20  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, went to church yesterday, and all my intentions of working on house projects went out the door, and I relaxed and watched TV, walked my dog and rested.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
06/21

Comments:

June 21st Hazelden Thought for the Day 

The Good Feelings


Let yourself feel the good feelings too.

Yes, sometimes, good feelings can be as distracting as the painful, more difficult ones. Yes, good feelings can be anxiety producing to those of us unaccustomed to them. But go ahead and feel the good feelings anyway.

Feel and accept the joy. The love. The warmth. The excitement. The pleasure. The satisfaction. The elation. The tenderness. The comfort.

Let yourself feel the victory, the delight.

Let yourself feel cared for.

Let yourself feel respected, important, and special.

These are only feelings, but they feel good. They are full of positive, upbeat energy - and we deserve to feel that when it comes our way.

We don't have to repress. We don't have to talk ourselves out of feeling good - not for a moment.

If we feel it, it's ours for the moment. Own it. If it's good, enjoy it.

Today, God, help me be open to the joy and good feelings available to me.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Reflection for the Day  
06/21

Comments:
JUNE 21 Reflection for the Day

"Direct" is a key word in the Ninth Step. There are times, unfortunately, when many of us are hopeful that indirect amends will suffice, sparing us the pain and supposed humiliation of approaching people in person and telling them of our wrongs. This is evasion and will never give us a true sense of breaking with the wrongdoings of the past. It shows that we're still trying to defend something that isn't worth defending, hanging on to conduct that we ought to abandon. The usual reasons for sidestepping direct amends are pride and fear.

As I make amends to others, do I realize that the real, lasting benefits accrue to me?

Today I Pray
May I be sure that the best reward for coming on straight as I try to repair my damages is, after all, my own. But may I avoid making amends purely for my own benefit - to be forgiven, to be reinstated, to flaunt the "new me." Ego-puffing and people-pleasing are not part of the real "new me." God save me from opportunism.

Today I Will Remember
No puffery or people-pleasing.


Donna Email
06/21

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
6/21/20  Sunday  Happy Fathers Day to all the Dad's on here.  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery doing my daily check in, still maintaining my GF lifestyle.  Just for today I will remain GF, ODAAT.


Joni b Email
06/20

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/08/2000

Location Nebraska

Comments:
Hello  friends at Safe Harbor.
     It has been some time since I have been here too This place as well as Cg hub will always have a special Grateful place  in my heart.) I am very grateful for you.your powerful messages..and .all the amazing friends I so met here through the years..and continued learning journey....and still keep in touch with many)
     You are so in my thoughts and prayers (((Tess))) you are soo this sites Angel and have provided and maintained this site for so many years.. you are soo loved.for you dedication here.. ..soo nice to see (( Carol, Cindy Jane.  Dave j Brenda, Peg, and ken and others)) and Donna)..sharing you journey too.and  your healing path....with friends here... .those steps..challenges , heartaches..and joys. odaat... and onward).It so Works!!!Hugs..
     Again..Thank YOU (((Tess))).and my heart and prayers are ongoing for you..and sooo glad your on the mend from this  nasty virus..you are a Strong Gal..and are Inspiring us all here in your sharing   challenging times today   and still providing this loving harbor for each of us to come too..to be inspired. encouraged..or whenever our hearts need an ear or to read . powerful messages..that is Priceless..IT Works !!Thank you!!!!! (((Safe Harbor))) for being here!!!
    (((Tess))) love to you. You Got this!! hugs...and ((All) here..thank you for sharing your heart too.!!..
my heart is soo warmed coming here..))
I will be back)))
 love,
 ysir,
Joni b



  
 


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
06/20

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June 20th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

There were deep secrets, hidden in my heart, never said for fear others would scoff or sneer. At last I can reveal my sufferings, for the strength I once felt in silence has lost all its power.

  —Deidra Sarault

There is magic in sharing ourselves with someone else. We learn from Steps Four and Five that what we thought were heinous acts are not unusual. Our shameful acts are not unique, and this discovery is our gift when we risk exposure.

Realizing how much we are like others gives us strength, and the program paves the way for us to capture that strength whenever and wherever we sense our need. Secrets block us from others and thus from God too. The messages we need to hear, the guidance offered by God, can't be received when we close ourselves off from the caring persons in our lives. They are the carriers of God's message.

How freeing to know we share the same fears, the same worries. Offering our story to someone else may be the very encouragement she needs at this time. Each of us profits from the sharing of a story. We need to recognize and celebrate our "sameness." When we share ourselves, we are bonded. Bonding combines our strength.

Silence divides us. It diminishes our strength. Yet all the strength we need awaits us. I will let someone else know me today.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey © 1982, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation.


Tess 
06/20

Comments:
The Contact Tracer determined that I contracted the Covid-19 virus on May 29th. I am on the mend now, but still very fatigued.
 

 I am going to post my symptoms and what led up to me getting tested.


 1. Nose started dripping. Not running, just an annoying drip..drip..drip..


 2. Started having gastrointestinal isues.

 3. back of both my knees started aching. Right one much worse.

 4. Night Sweats

 Still did not think I had Covid

 5. My legs gave out and I could barely walk.
 
 The next day I went to get tested.
 It is not free

 3 days later I got the results that I tested positive

 During this entire time the highest my fever got was 100.4

 I am still recouping
[smile]


Reflection for the Day  
06/20

Comments:
JUNE 20 Reflection for the Day

When we take the Ninth Step, we must be willing to be absolutely honest. Obviously, though, indiscriminate "absolute honesty" would blow the roof off many a house and entirely destroy some relationships. We must hold nothing back through deceit and pride; we may need to hold something back through discretion and consideration for others. Just when and how we tell the truth - or keep silent - can often reveal the difference between genuine integrity and none at all.

Am I grateful for the products of truth, which, through the grace of God, I have been privileged to receive?

Today I Pray
May I have the wisdom to know the fineline difference between tact and dishonesty. In my eagerness to make restitution, may I not be the charmer, the flatterer, or the crawler who insists, "You're so good, and I'm so bad." All are forms of dishonesty and hark back to the role-playing days of my active gambling addiction. May I recognize them.

Today I Will Remember
Tact is honest selectivity.


Donna Email
06/20

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
6/20/20  Saturday  Hi my name is Donna and I am Compulsive Gambler in Recovery.  Checking in, worked at the office 1/2 yesterday and remotely the other half, I prefer being in the office. Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Carole 
06/19

Last Day You Placed A Bet march 6/2002

Location bc

Comments:
Came to see how ((((((Tess))))) is, havent stopped praying for you..How wonderful to see all these hearts from the past..hugsxo
I have 18 gamble free years in and I LOVE WHAT PEG said..[love][thumb]

These days I don't count the days, I live them.xoxo

If you think about it..all those years ago the internet was the wild west and sometimes it was here too..LOL..but look at us go..Great , thanks and all the
best to anyone getting thru this day..there is HOPE[thumb]


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
06/19

Comments:
June 19th Hazelden Thought for the Day

Making Life Easier

Life doesn't have to be hard.

Yes, there are times we need to endure, struggle through, and rely on our survival skills. But we don't have to make life, growth, recovery, change, or our day-to-day affairs that hard all the time.

Having life be that hard is a remnant of our martyrdom, a leftover from old ways of thinking, feeling, and believing. We are worthy, even when life isn't that hard. Our value and worth are not determined by how hard we struggle.

If we're making it that hard, we may be making it harder than it needs to be, said one woman. Learn to let things happen easily and naturally. Learn to let events, and our participation in them, fall into place. It can be easy now. Easier than it has been. We can go with the flow, take the world off our shoulders, and let our Higher Power ease us into where we need to be.

Today, I will stop struggling so hard. I will let go of my belief that life and recovery have to be hard. I will replace it with a belief that I can walk this journey in ease and peace. And sometimes, it can actually be fun.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Reflection for the Day  
06/19

Comments:
JUNE 19 Reflection for the Day

The Gamblers Anonymous Program teaches us that only one consideration should qualify our desire to completely disclose the damage we've done. And that's where a full revelation would seriously harm the one to whom we're making amends – or, just as important, others close to that person. We can hardly unload a detailed account of extramarital misadventures, for example, on the shoulders of an unsuspecting wife or husband. When we recklessly make the burdens of others heavier, such actions surely can't lighten our own burden. Sometimes, in that sense, "telling all" may be almost a self-indulgence for us. So in making amends, we should be tactful, sensible, considerate, and humble - without being servile.

As a child of God, do I stand on my feet and not crawl before anyone?

Today I Pray
May God show me that self-hatred has no role in making amends to others. Neither has the play-acting of self-indulgence. I ask most humbly for my Higher Power's guidance as I strive to maintain a mature balance in interpersonal relations, even in the most casual or fragile ones.

Today I Will Remember
Making amends is mending.


Donna Email
06/19

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
6/19/20  Friday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, it's been a very stress-filled week at work (I'm a tax resolution analyst) normally I would run to my favorite gambling place, but I'm learning to cope and deal with the stress.   Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Hazelden Thought for the Day  
06/18

Comments:

June 18th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Being Vulnerable


Part of recovery means learning to share ourselves with other people. We learn to admit our mistakes and expose our imperfections - not so that others can fix us, rescue us, or feel sorry for us, but so we can love and accept ourselves. This sharing is a catalyst in healing and changing.

Many of us are fearful of sharing our imperfections because that makes us vulnerable. Some of us have tried being vulnerable in the past, and people tried to control, manipulate, or exploit us, or they made us feel ashamed.

Some of us in recovery have hurt ourselves by being vulnerable. We may have shared things with people who didn't respect our confidence. Or we may have told the wrong people at an inappropriate time, and scared them away.

We learn from our mistakes - and despite our mistakes, it is still a good thing to allow ourselves to be vulnerable and honest. We can learn to choose safe people with whom to share ourselves. We can learn to share appropriately, so we don't scare or push people away. We can also learn to let others be vulnerable with us.

Today, God, help me learn to be appropriately vulnerable. I will not let others exploit or shame me for being vulnerable, and I will not exploit myself.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Meursault 
06/18

Comments:
Tess,

I wish you well. 
What you have provided here by running this site has been such a help to so many.

Thank you

Des


Peg Email
06/18

Last Day You Placed A Bet 10 30 06

Location Louisiana

Comments:
Oh hugs Tess... I hope you're doing OK.

Scary times.

I haven't been here in a long time but on 10 30 06 I entered Safe Harbour Chat room and began the journey to reclaim my life.

I don't know what would've become of me if not for the people in that room, that day.

If you're here today because you're hurting... know that there is a way out. You can do it and you are worth it.

I used to look at people here with 20 years, or 3...and to be honest, even 1 month and think 'I can't do that'... and even if I could... WOULD I?

There was a part of me that didn't WANT to quit.  It wanted to figure out a way not to lose all of the things I was losing..but still gamble.

It is difficult to put into words the 'process' that I went through... the best way that I can explain it is... the longer I stayed away from gambling, the more clearly I began to think... until I got to a point where I don't really want to do that anymore.

I used to celebrate everyones clean time here.

10 days? 10 10 10 10 10 10 10 10 10 10 10
5 years? 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 5 

These days I don't count the days, I live them.

I'm good.
I'm free.

I do miss you wonderful people.
Much Love,
Peg
xo


Reflection for the Day 
06/18

Comments:
JUNE 18 Reflection for the Day

I believe today that I have a right to make spiritual progress. I have a right to be emotionally mature. I have a right to take pleasure in my own company, and that makes me more pleasant to be with. I also have a right to become willing - deeply willing, entirely willing - to make amends to all those I've harmed. Because I can now accept myself the way I am, I can accept other people the way they are - not entirely, but to a much greater degree than in the past.

Have I begun to make friends with God, and thus with myself?

Today I Pray
May God show me that it's okay to like myself, even while trying to repair old wrongs and rebuild from splinters. May I keep telling myself that I am different now. I have changed. I am a better and wiser and healthier person. I have made some good choices. As this “new person," may I find it easier to make atonements for what happened long ago and in another spiritual place. May those I have wronged also find it easier to accept my amends.

Today I Will Remember 
It's okay to like myself.
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