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Hazelden Thought for the Day 
03/17

Comments:

March 17th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Empowering


You can think. You can feel. You can solve your problems. You can take care of yourself.

Those words have often benefited me more than the most profound and elaborate advice.

How easy it is to fall into the trap of doubting others and ourselves.

When someone tells us about a problem, what is our reaction? Do we believe we need to solve it for the person? Do we believe that that person's future rests on our ability to advise him or her? That's standing on shaky ground - not the stuff of which recovery is made.

When someone is struggling through a feeling, or a morass of feelings, what is our reaction? That the person will never survive that experience? That it's not okay for someone to feel? That he or she will never get through this intact?

When a person is faced with the task of assuming responsibility for their life and behaviors, what is our response? That the person can't do that? I must do it myself to save him or her from dissipating into ashes? From crumbling? From failing?

What is our reaction to ourselves when we encounter a problem, a feeling, or when we face the prospect of assuming responsibility for ourselves?

Do we believe in others and ourselves? Do we give power to people - including ourselves - and their abilities? Or do we give the power to the problem, the feeling, or the irresponsibility?

We can learn to check ourselves out. We can learn to think, and consider our response, before we respond. "I'm sorry you're having that problem. I know you can figure out a solution. Sounds like you've got some feelings going on. I know you'll work through them and come out on the other side."

Each of us is responsible for ourselves. That does not mean we don't care. It does not mean a cold, calculated withdrawal of our support from others. It means we learn to love and support people in ways that work. It means we learn to love and support ourselves in ways that work. It means that we connect with friends who love and support us in ways that work.

To believe in people, to believe in each persons inherent ability to think, feel, solve problems, and take care of themselves is a great gift we can give and receive from others.

Today, I will strive to give and receive support that is pure and empowering. I will work at believing in myself and others - and our mutual abilities to be competent at dealing with feelings, solving problems, and taking responsibility for ourselves.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Michael 
03/17

Comments:
It is important that I remember the past. So as not to repeat it. Once I was coming home from the Windsor casino in canada after losing alot of money. I took the tunnel instead of the bridge. Big mistake. The traffic came to a standstill and we were not moving. It seemed like forever. The car exhaust was so bad I thought I would pass out. I thought about how we were under the Detroit river and what if the tunnel failed. I wanted to die but not for real. Then the panic set in and I thought I was losing my mind. My heart started to race and I was sweating and my eyes burned and I was exhausted after 6 hours in the casino. I told God if I got out alive that I would never gamble again. The next day I was right back at Windsor casino and going home through the tunnel again.


CJ 
03/17

Location Saskatchewan, Canada

Comments:
Good day SAFE HARBOR (((FRIENDS))) … good to see this site continues to be up and running.  God bless those who keep it that way.

I started coming to this site when it was still called the CGHub and it was detrimental to my recovery.  The support of the good people here were so helpful and supportive during the decade that I came here on an almost daily basis.  To this day I am still friends and remain in close touch with a few of those people.

If there was ever a time that compulsive gamblers need support it is now with all that is going on in the world.  Back in my gambling days if this pandemic was happening I would have camped out at the casino 24/7 to escape all of this. 

In thinking about the shut downs that is happening of movie theatres, concert halls, and all places social gathering places, casinos included, my heart goes out to those who suffer from this nasty addiction.  Although I am grateful that the casinos in my province are now closed, I am concerned about those compulsive gamblers out there who still suffer.  I do not attend GA meetings and am not sure what measures GA will take in regard to social distancing and if the face to face meetings will also come to a stop, but I do hope that if the meetings stop that they inform the members of this site.  I am going to email the meetings here in my city and offer that suggestion.

I know this is a difficult time for the whole world as we all head toward lock down to stop or slow this virus down so because I am human and have a need to be around people (even if it is via the internet) you will be seeing more of me until this passes.  AND IT WILL PASS!

A good day to ALL
bye now
CJ 




Donna Email
03/17

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
3/17/20  Tuesday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, checking in, went to work yesterday amidst all the Cornavirus scare, those that had a cold were told to go home, each desk has a bottle of hand sanitizer (mine already did I always keep one on there anyways)  Amidst all of this I stay Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
03/16

Comments:
MARCH 17 Reflection for the Day

“Lead us not into temptation,” we pray, for we know with certainty that temptation lurks around the corner. Temptation is cunning, baffling, powerful – and patient; we never know when it will catch us with our guard down. Temptation could come in the siren song of a four-color advertisement or a radio commercial, the neon and noise of a casino, or, more obviously, in the direct urgings of another person. We must remain forever vigilant, remembering that the first bet, the first face-off with a gambling machine, the first roll of the dice could well destroy our lives.

Am I aware of my number one priority?

Today I Pray
God, lead me out of temptation – whether it is the sound of rattling dice, the turn of a card at a poker party, the smoke of the Bingo hall. May I know the limits of my resistance and stay well within them. May my surrender to the will of God give a whole new meaning to that old phrase, “Get in the spirit.”

Today I Will Remember
Get in the spirit.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
03/16

Comments:
March 16th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Positive Energy

It's so easy to look around and notice what's wrong.

It takes practice to see what's right.

Many of us have lived around negativity for years. We've become skilled at labeling what's wrong with other people, our life, our work, our day, our relationships, our conduct, our recovery, and ourselves.

We want to be realistic, and our goal is to identify and accept reality. However, this is often not our intent when we practice negativity. The purpose of negativity is usually annihilation.

Negative thinking empowers the problem. It takes us out of harmony. Negative energy sabotages and destroys. It has a powerful life of its own.

So does positive energy. Each day, we can ask what's right, what's good - about other people, our life, our work, our day, our relationships, ourselves, our conduct, our recovery.

Positive energy heals, conducts love, and transforms. Choose positive energy.

Today, God help me let go of negativity. Transform my beliefs and thinking, at the core, from negative to positive. Put me in harmony with the good.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Donna Email
03/16

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
3/16/20  Monday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery, had a great productive weekend, and went to church and fishing on Sunday.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
03/15

Comments:
MARCH 16 Reflection for the Day

Gamblers Anonymous teaches us that we are emotionally and mentally different from our fellows. We are reminded that the great obsession of every compulsive gambler is to prove that somehow, someday, we will be able to control our gambling. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing, and many pursue it to the gates of prison, insanity, or death.

Have I conceded to my inner self that one bet is too many, and a thousand not enough?

Today I Pray
May I have no illusions about someday becoming a controlled gambler after being an obsessive one. May I muffle any small voice of destructive pride which lies to me, telling me that I can now go back to my former addiction and control it. This is a Program of no return, and I thank God for it.

Today I Will Remember
My goal must be lifelong abstinence – a day at a time.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
03/15

Comments:
March 15th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Removing the Victim

Don't others see how much I'm hurting? Can't they see I need help? Don't they care?

The issue is not whether others see or care. The issue is whether we see and care about ourselves. Often, when we are pointing a finger at others, waiting for them to have compassion for us, its because we have not fully accepted our pain. We have not yet reached that point of caring about ourselves. We are hoping for awareness in another that we have not yet had.

It is our job to have compassion for ourselves. When we do, we have taken the first step toward removing ourselves as victims. We are on the way to self-responsibility, self-care, and change.

Today, I will not wait for others to see and care; I will take responsibility for being aware of my pain and problems, and caring about myself.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Donna Email
03/15

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
3/15/20  Sunday  Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery.  I live in Central Florida, and while I am 6 hours south of where the cases of the Cornavirus was found, there has been utter panic in my area, people have bought up the toilet paper, and are hoarding everything, I understand the concern and I don't take it lightly, but there are extremes.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
03/15

Comments:
MARCH 15 Reflection for the Day

There have been days during my recovery when just about everything seemed bleak and even hopeless. I allowed myself to become depressed and angry. I see now that it doesn’t matter what I think, and it doesn’t matter how I feel. It’s what I do that counts. So when I become anxious or upset, I try to stay in recovery by going to meetings, participating, and working with others in the Gamblers Anonymous Program.

If God seems far away, who moved?

Today I Pray
May I not be immobilized by sadness or anger to the point of despair. May I look for the roots of despair in my tangle of emotions, sort out the tangle, pull out the culprit feelings, acknowledge that they belong to me. Only then can I get into gear, take action, begin to accomplish. May I learn to make use of the energy generated by anger to strengthen my will and achieve my goals.

Today I Will Remember
To sort out my feelings.


Michael 
03/14

Comments:
The mature and realistic person will not relapse. Those who's generosity, caution , love, appreciation and optimism over balances the opposite. A lifelong habit of honesty can be destroyed by bad company. My ugly bad habit of gambling at one time had a very strong hold of me. Bad habits are strong, good habits weak. No easy way to stay abstinent. Constant practice of the twelve steps is necessary.


Michael 
03/14

Comments:
Everybody is both generous and miserly, cautious and bold, loving and hating, forgiving and vengeful, appreciative and critical. Human habits arrange themselves in pairs. One antagonistic to the other. Everybody is optimistic and pessimistic at the same time. This being true, I want to gamble and not to gamble, So long as one outbalances the other, relapse will not happen.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
03/14

Comments:

March 14th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Trusting Ourselves


Trust can be one of the most confusing concepts in recovery. Who do we trust? For what?

The most important trust issue we face is learning to trust ourselves. The most detrimental thing that's happened to us is that we came to believe we couldn't trust ourselves.

There will be some who tell us we cannot trust ourselves; we are off base and out of whack. There are those who would benefit by our mistrusting ourselves.

Fear and doubt are our enemies. Panic is our enemy. Confusion is our opposition.

Self-trust is a healing gift we can give ourselves. How do we acquire it? We learn it. What do we do about our mistakes, about those times we thought we could trust ourselves but were wrong? We accept them, and trust ourselves anyway.

We know what is best for us. We know what is right for us. If we are wrong, if we need to change our mind, we will be guided into that - but only by trusting where we are today.

We can look to others for support and reinforcement, but trust in ourselves is essential.

Do not trust fear. Do not trust panic. We can trust ourselves, stand in our own truth, and stand in our own light. We have it now. Already. We have all the light we need for today. And tomorrow's light shall be given to us then.

Trust ourselves, and we will know whom to trust. Trust ourselves, and we will know what to do. When we feel we absolutely cannot trust ourselves, trust that God will guide us into truth.

God, help me let go of fear, doubt, and confusion - the enemies of self-trust. Help me go forward in peace and confidence. Help me grow in trust for you, and myself one day at a time, one experience at a time.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved.


Donna Email
03/14

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
3/14/20  Saturday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery.  It's Saturday morning and I was so exhausted from working 3 doubles this past week, I came home and went to bed early, and I'm up at 5am, my intention was to sleep in, but I got enough rest, and ready to tackle home projects and the laundromat. Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
03/13

Comments:
MARCH 14 Reflection for the Day

One thing that keeps me on the right track today is a feeling of loyalty to other members of Gamblers Anonymous, no matter where they may be. We depend on each other. I know, for example, that I’d be letting them down if I ever gambled. When I came to GA, I found a group of people who were not only helping each other to stay clean, but who were loyal to each other by staying clean themselves.

Am I loyal to my group and to my friends in GA?

Today I Pray
I thank God for the loyalty and fellowship of the group and for the mutuality of commitment that binds us together. May I give to the group in the same proportion that I take from it. Having been a taker during so many of my years, my giving used to be no more than a commodity, for which I expected to be paid in approval or love or favors. May I learn the joy of pure giving, with no strings attached, no expectation of reward.

Today I Will Remember
A perfect gift asks nothing in return.


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
03/13

Comments:
March 13th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

In Between
 
Sometimes, to get from where we are to where we are going, we have to be willing to be in between.
One of the hardest parts of recovery is the concept of letting go of what is old and familiar, but what we don't want, and being willing to stand with our hands empty while we wait for God to fill them.
This may apply to feelings. We may have been full of hurt and anger. In some ways, these feelings may have become comfortably familiar. When we finally face and relinquish our grief, we may feel empty for a time. We are in between pain and the joy of serenity and acceptance.
Being in between can apply to relationships. To prepare ourselves for the new, we need to first let go of the old. This can be frightening. We may feel empty and lost for a time. We may feel all alone, wondering what is wrong with us for letting go of the proverbial bird in hand, when there is nothing in the bush.
Being in between can apply to many areas of life and recovery. We can be in between jobs, careers, homes, or goals. We can be in between behaviors as we let go of the old and are not certain what we will replace it with. This can apply to behaviors that have protected and served us well all of our life, such as caretaking and controlling.
We may have many feelings going on when we're in between: spurts of grief about what we have let go of or lost, and feelings of anxiety, fear, and
apprehension about what's ahead. These are normal feelings for the in between place. Accept them. Feel them. Release them.
Being in between isn't fun, but it's necessary. It will not last forever. It may feel like we're standing still, but we're not. We're standing at the in between place. it's how we get from here to there. It is not the destination.
We are moving forward, even when we're in between.
Today, I will accept where I am as the ideal place for me to be. If I am in between, I will strive for the faith that this place is not without purpose, that it is moving me toward something good.
 
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From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990


Donna Email
03/13

Last Day You Placed A Bet 7/14/15

Location Florida

Comments:
3/13/20   Friday   Hi my name is Donna and I am a Compulsive Gambler in Recovery. Worked a double last night, exhausted.  Just for today I will remain Gamble Free, ODAAT.


Reflection for the Day  
03/12

Comments:

MARCH 13 Reflection for the Day

All my life, I looked to others for comfort, security, and all the other things that add up to what I now call serenity. But I’ve come to realize that I was always looking in the wrong place. The source of serenity is not outside, but within myself. The kingdom is within me, and I already have the key. All I have to do is to be willing to use it.

Am I using the tools of the Gamblers Anonymous Program on a daily basis? Am I willing?

Today I Pray
God gives me the courage to seek out the kingdom inside myself, to find that well-spring within me that has its source in the never-ending, life-giving river of God. May my soul be restored there. May I find the serenity I seek.

Today I Will Remember
To seek the inner kingdom.

 


Hazelden Thought for the Day 
03/12

Comments:
March 12th Hazelden Thought for the Day 

Timing

If we could untangle the mysteries of life and unravel the energies which run through the world; if we could evaluate correctly the significance of passing events; if we could measure the struggles, dilemmas, and aspirations of mankind, we could find that nothing is born out of time. Everything comes at its appointed moment.
—Joseph R. Sizoo

Timing can be frustrating. We can wait and wait for something to happen, and it seems to be forever until it comes to pass. Or, suddenly, an event or circumstance is thrust upon us, catching us by surprise. Believing that things happen too slowly or too quickly is an illusion. Timing is perfect.

Today, I will trust and work with Divine Order. I will accept the timing in my life today and in my past as being perfect.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. 
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